So you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Obviously, you want to be able to get her back faster rather than slower.
So, even though you have just broken up with her only a few days ago, you start contacting her immediately. She did not pick up the phone. So you keep on calling her hoping that she will eventually answer you.
After calling her again and again, you still cannot get her. So you send her tons of text messages trying to ask her to call you back. Again, she didn’t do as you wish. She didn’t even bother to reply your text messages.
So, what wrong with the example given above?
Well, doing the things above is not going to work. It will not help the situation. In fact, it will only make the situation worse. Why is that so? Calling too fast too soon is only going to make you look desperate and needy.
Since she is already trying to avoid you, by being desperate and needy, she is only going to avoid you more. That is why sometimes, more haste really mean less speed.
Whether you have just broken up or you have already broken up for quite a period of time, you need to have a bit of patience. You don’t want to approach things too fast. You don’t want to call her a hundred times per day even if she doesn’t pick up the phone.
In fact, if she has just broken up with you a few days ago and is avoiding you currently, you will be better off not to contact her for the time being since she is already avoiding you. You might do better if you tried to call her at least 30 days later. To get your girlfriend back, it might be better for you to use the slow and steady way rather that the fast and ineffective way.